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   It’s so sad news Wed. Catholic church Dublin Ireland covered up 46 priests abused over decades 100s of kids identified (many more unknown), church hid it from police so no prosecutions. 2 mos ago reported many tens of 1000s molested victims of clergy in Irish church schools: church hid it from police over 60-70yrs of sex abuse/rape; small portion [12,000] made claims that were approved. + CNN “4 boys ages 9 to 14 charged with sexually assaulting an 8-year old girl, police in Phoenix AZ said Wed.”//Patricia [Wed] I don’t agree w/ all you said that marriages never work, but there are strong arguments on your side based on most Christian marriages rather than God’s ideal, esp those built on faulty wife submits to husb, husb doesn’t submit to wife model. Regardless live somewhere else. Steve says he told his wonderful daughter Madeline that if she didn’t follow rules & modify her behavior he would send her away to live somewhere else, he didn’t mean other parent.This is why send out of control child to institution where can get therapy/help before they’re caught & do hard time//Thurs If Victor 2d caller’s wife would call poChristians should always support dec. to stay single, esp after div. where is God’s preference Mt19:9. If mom has daughters is good choice, hi rate of stepdads/boyfriends molesting mom’s daughters. Steve said girls mature faster sexually if unrelated male in house//1st caller Thurs Marlena son ran away 6 times, any time kid runs away have to consider they might have been or are being abused/molested. Great Henry + Steve say son might have to lice if he gets violent, he could get court ordered anger mgmt. His wife should be able to go out w/ female friends but not w/ male friends, esp not go dancing w/ men, & shouldn’t go w/ women to places which are primarily pick up joints, where men pick up, dance w/ women//Jealousy & controlling husb are bad, but Christians should discuss before marriage how to set hedges around marriage, not be in places where opposite sex [OS] will hit on you, try to pick you up, don’t open up emotionally to OS, no OSFs. 80% husbs 73% wives under 40 ADMITTED to sex w/ non spouse during marriage//3d caller Thurs TJ whose wife left him [& kids?] several times, he has to consider strong chance that when she’s moved out that she is seeing another guy, often true for both sexes. Caller has to decide what he wants, doesn’t seem like he has enuf evid of SA but if she moves out & isn’t willing to move back then he can div IF he wants. Her saying nasty things to him, leaving & returning, quittimg her job & refusing to work aren’t enuf for divorce//Henry’s statement Thurs don’t separate w/out plan is good, BUT sometimes spouse [esp wife] has to move out/kick them out immed, violence, molesting, any danger, substance/alcohol abuse, dangerous criminal activity [can get whacked if spouse is selling drugs], continuing SA, extreme emotional abuse, may have to get out then work on plan

   Comment by fred — July 24, 2009 @ 8:16 am

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   Some comments got jumbled. Patricia [Wed] I don’t agree w/ all you said that marriages never work, but there are strong arguments on your side based on most Christian marriages rather than God’s ideal, esp those built on faulty wife submits to husb, husb doesn’t submit to wife model. Regardless Christians should always support dec. to stay single, esp after div. where is God’s preference Mt19:9. If mom has daughters is good choice, hi rate of stepdads/boyfriends molesting mom’s daughters. Steve said girls mature faster sexually if unrelated male in house/// 1st caller Thurs Marlena son ran away 6 times, any time kid runs away have to consider they might have been or are being abused/molested. Great Henry + Steve say son might have to live somewhere else. Steve says he told his wonderful daughter Madeline that if she didn’t follow rules & modify her behavior he would send her away to live somewhere else, he didn’t mean other parent.This is why send out of control child to institution where can get therapy/help before they’re caught & do hard time

   Comment by fred — July 24, 2009 @ 8:22 am

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   Thurs If Victor 2d caller’s wife would call police if he gets violent, he could get court ordered anger mgmt. His wife should be able to go out w/ female friends but not w/ male friends, esp not go dancing w/ men, & shouldn’t go w/ women to places which are primarily pick up joints, where men pick up, dance w/ women Jealousy & controlling husb are bad, but Christians should discuss before marriage how to set hedges around marriage, not be in places where opposite sex [OS] will hit on you, try to pick you up, don’t open up emotionally to OS, no OSFs. 80% husbs 73% wives under 40 ADMITTED to sex w/ non spouse during marriage 3d caller Thurs TJ whose wife left him [& kids?] several times, he has to consider strong chance that when she’s moved out that she is seeing another guy, often true for both sexes. Caller has to decide what he wants, doesn’t seem like he has enuf evid of SA but if she moves out & isn’t willing to move back then he can div IF he wants. Her saying nasty things to him, leaving & returning, quittimg her job & refusing to work aren’t enuf for divorce Henry’s statement Thurs don’t separate w/out plan is good, BUT sometimes spouse [esp wife] has to move out/kick them out immed, violence, molesting, any danger, substance/alcohol abuse, dangerous criminal activity [can get whacked if spouse is selling drugs], continuing SA, extreme emotional abuse, may have to get out then work on plan

   Comment by fred — July 24, 2009 @ 8:23 am

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   7/24 show Disagree w/ hosts on 300lb husb of caller, don’t think that nagging + fear based tactics work that often, husbs naturally resist when wife pushes them. Esp think making a requirement for lapband surgery is bad idea, lapband & similar operations only work IF you change way you eat, having it forced on you guarantees defeat, worse than no operation at all. Connection, exercise partners, working at therapy etc. to solve underlying problems. Find something they can do together, walking etc. for exercise. Maybe frequent Sex? Make him chase you around outside of house 5times around before sex. Saying he has to lose weight in particular deadline won’t work. Want to make small changes that can maintain, large changes worse than no change at all, don’t maintain them then feel shame & self defeated. Feeling ACCEPTED helps, feeling loathed & that spouse doesn’t accept you makes it worse, the more you feel accepted & valued including how you look the easier it is to exercise, eat healthy.//Caller dad w/ 13 yr old daughter, too bad he couldn’t follow Jesus & stay in marriage, divorcing because couldn’t get along w/ wife anymore isn’t biblical. Caller shouldn’t have remarried Mt19:9 should stay single, celibate, that’s why he’s having these problems w/ kids in unbiblical remarriage. Wicked stepmom & stepdad has biblical basis Mt19:9

   Comment by fred — July 24, 2009 @ 9:39 am

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