Steve Arterburn, Dr. John Townsend and Dr. Dave Stoop
1. How do I process my feelings while I’m dating a roller coaster bipolar man? [dating]
2. What is the unpardonable sin? [salvation]
3. God told my wife our marriage is over, but it doesn’t say that in the Bible. [marriage]
4. My boyfriend had an affair in his past, how should I feel about that? [dating; sexual integrity]
5. How do I stop lying to myself to please other people? [self worth and confidence]
Love your program. On October 21st a caller named Christine was talking about her fear of marriage. She is/was me. I too am analytical and feel a great need to feel safe, secure, and in control. I too had/have a fear of marriage. It has compounded my difficulties. I did get married despite my unease. It has complicated everything. At this time my husband wants out and I feel well I’m not sure I’m feeling. I feel badly for complicating his life so much and I feel sorry for my wrongdoings. I just wanted to comment. I thought I was alone in feeling fearful of relationships and of being “known.” Thank you for your program.
Comment by Dee — October 23, 2009 @ 7:41 am
I am in my 40s and am VERY happily single. Some may surmise that I have a fear of marriage, but actually, I spent my entire 30s desiring marriage. I, too, am analytical and downright picky; no one is perfect, but you have to know what you’re signing up for, so it’s best to be a wise ‘consumer’. Marriage is a complex commitment and it is not for everyone.
I have married friends that are going through various struggles. Hearing about the stress and strain of their daily lives tells me that marriage is not the princess on a white horse that all us little girls read about. I put a lot of blame on society (better yet, even family members) for perpetuating the myth that marriage is a bed of roses. Women need to be brutally honest about what the demands of marriage entail so that those that choose to take the plunge can be properly prepared and not get caught off-guard. Too often, experienced women will not counsel young women that are about to walk down the aisle for the first time. “Let them find out on their own! Ha, ha!” Yet, these same women will spew all kinds of divorce advice when the poor woman is going through a separation (“Take him to the cleaners, honey!”).
Women like myself who are analytical about dating/marriage are wisely cautious, so I wouldn’t be so quick to judge us all as marriage phobics.
Comment by Daily Listener — November 6, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
I was listening to the woman who was engaged to a man who is Bi Polar .
I am not sure which co host it was that kept referring to this person as crazy. I found this to be very offensive ! My husband has suffered from depression for many years and I would
never think to refer to him as CRAZY! Where is the compassion ? Is this a Christian program ?
I question that.
Comment by Deb Kelly — November 11, 2009 @ 9:44 am