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Comment on New Life Live! – February 5, 2010 by Daily Listener

Daily Listener — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 22:35:07 +0000

I agree with Dr. Cloud. The pope is not the one all, be all of Christianity. The pope is a human being and not a demi-god. He is not “holy”. Only God is. God is the one and only Holy Father.

Comment on New Life Live! – March 2, 2010 by fred

fred — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:21:06 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 3/9 SHOW:1st caller Valerie sounds like she wants her counselor to convince her husb to do what Valerie wants him to do, that’s just silly, don’t blame counselor for that result not happening. It might be Valerie’s fault, maybe she doesn’t really follow thru on counselor’s suggestions or doesn’t follow details, maybe Valerie is too passive, maybe doesn’t tell therapist what she needs, but after 5 yr why not try different counselor, can always go back./ 2d caller Tim? who committed adultery 5-6 times Bible doesn’t say to forgive ourselves, forgiving ourselves is overrated better to be completely broken, God forgives, caller is self focused cares only about himself [is why he cheats] shows no concern for his wife, he’s not doing programs he needs to never cheat again, EMB, 12 step sex addicts group, no OSFs, be accountable to wife 24/7 where he is + what he’s doing./

Comment on New Life Live! – March 2, 2010 by fred

fred — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 20:31:24 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 3/8 SHOW: I do disagree on prenups. I think they are misused to try to keep spouses from sharing your money, but used properly I think they should be required by law. Couples SHOULD talk about and agree on money and things like what would happen if one of them leaves or divorces, how to protect the kids. Would bring the divorce rate down, a lot of couples would never marry once they saw for real how the other felt about money etc. If they can’t discuss and agree on things like this then they shouldn’t get married. Most important it would prevent divorces from being money fights and keep kids from being used as pawns for money, divorces would be much less nasty and could be about what’s best for the kids./ 1st caller shouldn’t have married guy despite his being dad of their son, he committed SA & didn’t have grounds for div. so Mt19:9 she committed adultery twice, 2d time by marrying him, he should never remarry & she can’t trust him. But if she did marry him prenup + protecting HER house was right thing, she was losing her job & he planned to give ½ her house to his daughter by ex wife. I disagree w/ Steve & Milan, prenup is good idea for all./ Be generous in prenup while still in love, agreeing in advance keeps from being nasty div later so can concentrate on what’s best for kids. We have fire insur. for small chance of fire, prenup makes sense when 50% div rate. Here don’t marry him so no prenup, but in general prenup should show how will provide for spouse/kids even if spouse leaves you. Makes sure kids get support. Also means couple can focus on reconciling instead of money fights causing more bitterness. / OK to say get EACH spouse gets less money if commit adultery, everyone can use incentives. Most important if can’t agree while “in love” how will provide for each other & kids if the worst happens then shouldn’t marry, forces couples to discuss & agree on things like money & what happens if div. Great if couples are forced to discuss money BEFORE they marry. Prenups aren’t enforceable unless BOTH get legal advice so neither can defraud either w/out their knowing. / Don’t use prenups to cheat your spouse from money, use to show are generous. Can see today if spouse is greedy or generous, whether spouse marrying money is just after the money, & OK to provide for kids of prior marriage. Prenups should be required by law, many marriages that shouldn’t happened would be prevented if all these things came out BEFORE married; both should insist on prenup, shows who you’re marrying before it’s too late./ caller Charles, wife Dee called 2/17 Wonderful that NL took a call from husband [dating strippers] giving his side. That is such great teaching to listeners, shows that there are 2 sides to story, shows how different perspectives of spouses are, and it’s very entertaining. I hope NL encourages, off the air or on, all the callers to have the person they called about also call in, maybe give them a different # to call or a special code so they can bypass being on hold, those are the best and most helpful calls. And there is a natural fairness and justice in letting the other person, who often got trashed on the air nationwide, give their side. Note he did not deny sexual adultery [SA], wife wasn’t sure, so she can divorce but he did right thing to admit it. Advice they gave Charles was excellent./ Caller Erica guy she was living w/ & almost certainly having sex w/ from teen for 6? Yr, that’s why she couldn’t leave because they were sexually involved, that’s a trap, go now to police & report his beatings, get restraining order so that he doesn’t force his way back into her life, never be w/ him or contact him again, change phone # & email, move, don’t tell him where./ Caller Lucy whose husband had affair, they’ve been married for 35 yrs, ALWAYS assume that there have been other sexual & emotional affairs esp when catch spouse rather than spouse confesses, but probably also true for many cheating spouses who do confess, they might be confessing 1 but keeping silent about other affairs. Spouse has proved is person who has affairs./

Comment on New Life Live! – March 2, 2010 by fred

fred — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:30:24 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 3/5 SHOW: 1st caller Rob shouldn’t have married current wife, she was married before [unless she div her ex for SA & she never did SA in that marriage], he made terrible choice, is why he’s paying for it now./ 2d caller Bill don’t send her money back to cheating wife for child support, it’s not his money it’s kids’ money, law is clear he can’t waive kids’ right to child support, if she doesn’t pay have authorities go after her, money is being used to finance her affair + her supporting homeless guy, money is enabling her./ I have great difficulty that caller Claire has had nothing to do w/ kids + grandkids turning against her, would like to hear more about what she says they SAY she did, Milan is onto something, can’t believe that whole family turns against her & she has nothing to do w/ it./ Last caller Jim never have any contact w/ former girlfriend, this is why Steve is right John T is wrong, NO OSFs they are too great a risk. Jim needs to text her goodbye tell her can never have any contact w/ her then change email + cell #, tell wife, give wife access to email + passwords + cell records, never have any OSFs again./

Comment on New Life Live! – March 2, 2010 by fred

fred — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:03:19 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 3/2 SHOW: caller Todd: remarriage Mt19:9 and 5:31, grace means forgiven, grace is Jesus saying don’t remarry so you won’t become a serial marriage killer. Todd is using this argument: Grace is enough for everything, so I can kill my lover’s husband and tell people I shouldn’t go to prison because God’s grace is enough for me. What did Todd mean by some unfaithfulness? Did her ex commit SA? 1st he said no which is why Steve raised issue. / Caller Todd are they having sex? She was sex.ly abused by dad, don’t marry until fully healed or she’ll be miserable in marriage, marriage interferes w/ healing. Their people pickers are broken. Todd couldn’t hear Steve, Jesus said few can hear Mt19:9, they say grace says ignore Mt 19:9, NO, grace is follow Mt 19:9 don’t marry her, or to her don’t remarry so you + others won’t be miserable, won’t be a serial marriage killer. If we COULD hear Mt 19:9 then div rate would be low. Todd must be jingle writer lives by pop slogans not scripture./
3/3 SHOW: 1st caller can’t get over guy, he’s just not that into you. Likely they were sexual, is why not over him, lesson to wait till marriage./ 3/3 2d caller Jennifer agree w/ Steve don’t divorce or even separate because husb hasn’t found new job, but should tell Jennifer she could biblically div. her choice for his affairs earlier in marriage. Fact that she forgave him and got past it doesn’t mean she can’t div later for the SA. Anything else would be stupid, would encourage people to div right away rather than try to work it out after SA./
3/4 SHOW: 1st caller Courtney? is likely naïve, husb almost certainly had other sexual affairs & probably is still having affair & will have more affairs, husb isn’t showing enuf brokenness & isn’t doing enuf, he needs EMB several times, no OSFs or contact alone w/ women, 3/wk 12 step sex addict group, male accountability partner, his PC/email/cell all available to wife + let her know 24/7 where he is, no conact w/ lover, maybe go sex addict rehab center, his “getting right w/ God” doesn’t solve problem./

Comment on New Life Live! – March 1, 2010 by fred

fred — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 19:56:47 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 3/1 SHOW: 2d caller husb should assume that his wife is having sex w/ her long time former friend/lover, not always true but often is, spouse who says it’s just an emotional affair, it’s often sexual or soon will be. Doesn’t mean can go ahead & divorce w/out some reasonable evidence, don’t need proof but need some reasonable belief before can divorce for SA. Caller’s wife’s lover was married twice before, is married now, his wife shouldn’t have married him Mt19:9, can’t expect happiness if ignore Jesus./ Disagree w/ Stoop that it’s risky to tell cheating wife she must choose & he won’t be there if she cheats, much riskier to be a doormat, makes you seem pathetic wimp & less likely she’ll ever come back, Bible says we don’t enable evil./ 3d caller woman: leave guy she’s living w/, don’t ever see him again except to co-parent, don’t ever date anyone until can be celibate & nothing sexual, need therapy & work on her character issues, if was married [has other kids] then don’t date or remarry at all unless div’d ex for SA./

Comment on New Life Live! – February 26, 2010 by fred

fred — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:48:51 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 2/26 SHOW: Caller Kara was in relationship with guy, both divorced, ask why they each divorced, if either divorced other than for sexual adultery [SA] of ex then they shouldn’t marry anyone Mt19:9. He’s clearly not ready for relationship, if his marriage broke up due to his sexual addiction then he shouldn’t ever date or remarry, he should stay single & try to be celibate. Kara should also take break from dating even if div’d for SA of ex, she needs to work on her character issues before she can date & not be physically intimate. Do NOT go back to this guy./ Kara & hosts think that guy who said they can’t see each other just isn’t over his divorce or his sex addict Issues. Any time guy breaks it off have to consider another possibility: he’s just not that into you. Don’t chase after people after they say goodbye./Jill fell into fictitious abandonment error, abandonment isn’t grounds for divorce, grounds is spouse refuses to live w/ you not due to your own sin. Here husb refuses to live in PA w/ Elaine, if he agrees to live w/ her in Fla then that’s close call, but since they married w/ idea they’d live in PA & they did for [6 mos?] he probably is refusing to live w/ her & she could divorce. But given everything they did, lived w/ each other & had sex before married, short engagement, red flags she ignored, she shouldn’t be surprised marriage self-destructed./

Comment on New Life Live! – February 25, 2010 by mo

mo — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:00:14 +0000

I appreciate the advice to Kay it was most valuable and helpful, very nicely done. Thanks

Comment on New Life Live! – February 24, 2010 by fred

fred — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 19:45:26 +0000

SIGN UP FOR CLUB NEW LIFE!! 2/25 SHOW: Caller Dee married at least twice now divorced, if she div’d them other than for SA [& she never did SA] or because he refused to live w/ her, then she shouldn’t date, should stay single & celibate Mt19:9.

Comment on New Life Live! – February 23, 2010 by fred

fred — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:58:16 +0000

2/24 SHOW: Severe risk in situation like this, 2d caller when husb is from country like Sudan that he will take kids back to that country & wife will never see them again, happens often, many countries refuse to enforce rights of US parents. Do not allow any extended visits w/ Dad or out of state & warn police any time kids are w/ dad so can prevent his abducting them, call them ever few hrs on non cell phone at his end to confirm they haven’t left./ 2d caller doesn’t have grounds for div unless she has some reasonable evid that he is having some kind of sex, doesn’t need proof but if trustworthy person is telling her women are spending nite that’s enuf. Question whether to reconcile w/ husb from Sudan given risk to kids. This is what happens when marry spouse from countries which don’t enforce US child custody laws, & when marry unbeliever./ 3d caller Emmanuel did right thing in not letting wife take daughter to Africa at time when marriage is in turmoil, as w/ 2d caller there is great risk when parents takes child to many parts of Africa that they never return & US parent never sees child again, here esp if wife’s family is in Africa./ Last caller Ann was molested, women who were molested shouldn’t marry until have fully healed after years of hard work in therapy, will be miserable in marriage [husb also], see book by Rick Warren’s wife that was their situation, much more difficult for woman to heal in marriage than before. Not punishing these women, trying to protect them from horrible situation as Jill says. Now too late to do best thing, so she needs intensive therapy & do very hard painful work./ Last caller Ann not too late to report & prosecute those who molested her, he/they are surely still molesting others, will also help in her healing, best molseters spend as long as possible in prison, can prosecute many yrs later [15 or more yrs later]./